Why Wait?


Life certainly is short.  Recently, I have been thinking a lot about why people wait to say kind things to others.  Do we need to have a reason, an occasion, a move, or… dare I say it, a funeral?  Sounds crazy, but I bet you know as many people as I do that say the kindest things about people that have suddenly (or not so suddenly) lost their lives.  Many times I hear the words “I wish I had told them______________” (fill in the blank).  But why wish?  I wish people would share kind thoughts about each other more freely, and for no reason at all!

Think of how uplifting it is to hear how you have touched someone by a kind word, action, or just smile in the middle of a bad day.  There’s nothing so wonderful as knowing someone has noticed something you have done either through effort or without even thinking about it.

I have to say, this thought has been on my mind a lot lately.  Not because I’m looking for a boost to my ego, a pat on the back or just a kick.  I wonder what my efforts mean to people.  Perhaps what I mean to people.  Do I make the difference in people’s lives as I hope to?  Do I inspire?  Amuse?  I would like to know if there’s something that’s unique about me that my friends or my patients remember.  Of course I hope there is something.  Something meaningful.  I still hold on to an “autograph” book that I asked teachers to sign for me in high school but requested that they write something meaningful in, rather than just sign their names!  Yes, words matter to me.  Experiences matter.  And obviously, kindness matters.  And sharing kindness thrills me (thus, this blog) 🙂

To be clear, I do believe that the best feedback a person can get about their actions is from themselves — that gut instinct that tells us whether we’re doing what our own purpose/destiny is driving us to do.  And I feel that.  I also believe that beyond this life, our spiritual selves live on and can feel or be aware of every positive thought that is sent to us.  And I have no desire or intention of moving into the spiritual world anytime soon.Image

But again, life is short.  And although I hope my one-day funeral will bring about many expressions of kind memories from my friends and family, I do not wish to wait until then to hear some thoughts about what might be said about me.  So I pose this question to you today: If today was the last day you could express some kind thought/memory about me to me, what would it be?

Because I am in this state of thinking/awareness, I have decided to randomly choose a friend/acquaintance of mine per week to write to and express my own thought/memory about them.  Maybe I can inspire you to do the same or something similar.  Let’s not wait for special occasions to share kind thoughts with each other.

For now, I would love to hear from you if you have something that stands out in your mind about me (write here or email me or facebook message me — I would love to hear from you).



5 thoughts on “Why Wait?”

  1. What stands out about you in my eyes, Dr. Menen, is your positive, caring and healing energy. I have been a patient of yours for some time now and have to say, since day one, I’ve always felt as if you cared about me and my health. You’re capable in your profession and this not only includes your book smarts but your bedside manner and sense of humour. I have said to myself too many times to count (and to you as well I certainly hope) how grateful I am to have you on my side. I feel blessed for it and know that my life has changed in many ways for the better because you are in it.
    So there… 🙂


  2. What stands out about you in my eyes, Dr. Menen, your positive nature. I’ve been your patient for some time now and since day one I remember feeling as if you truly cared about my heal and about me moving forward in my life. You are an asset to your profession because you contain the best qualities: book smarts, kindness and a great sense of humour. I’ve said to myself more times than I can count (and to you as well I hope!) how grateful I am to have you on my side. I feel blessed to know you and can truly say my life has improved to have you in it.
    So there… And, thank you. 🙂


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