Today I am energetically trying to help a friend who is grieving his friend who is getting ready for his “transition” to another realm. I have seen and experienced many deaths beginning with my own brother’s many years ago and followed by numerous patients and friends. Not one has been easy.
Yet, what has become “easier” over time for me has been the acceptance of death. I have always felt that when a person’s work in this life is done, their time comes to leave us. The un-ease for me has always been seeing/feeling/sensing the pain or struggle that can happen in this time. More often I am even more aware of the pain and struggle of the survivors of the recently (or soon-to-be) departed. I truly believe that is the area that needs more attention.
For myself, I know that I wished each person I have lost to death had more time. Why? For young people I have always felt they were not able to “truly” live their lives because there were not enough years for them to do so. Yet each young person I have seen pass I feel has lived longer that many people even twice their age… and they have left a legacy so strong that their thoughts, words and actions are so evidently living through everyone that they touched. For older people who pass (even the oldest at 98 years old) – I am more aware that even though they have lived incredibly full lives, it is ME wanting them to live longer because I cherish them. And then I look at how beautiful it is that young or old, such a life is so valued by others that our own selfish desire of wanting them alive (even if they are struggling in some way) shows us how much they mean to us. And I have never found it “easy” to let go of anyone I have known that is dying.
More recently, I am reminded more and more of what I have read, what Near-Death-Experiences have shown, and what I feel is true in my heart. That the person dying is moving into a beautiful realm of spiritual existence that is not observable to (most of) our human eyes. Some people like psychics or mystics are able to see this realm. I am able to read energy from this realm today too (not from seeing it but “hearing” it on some level). I know that on a vibrational level, things that we finally see manifest (in these cases, in someone’s passing) – is already done. Many people have noticed and experienced a loved one who is dying that is able to “wait” to see a favourite relative or meaningful relationship before they pass. I believe that the time around death (could be days, weeks or months), dying people have some awareness of their limited time left on Earth, and are able to use some subconscious/unconscious energy to help them achieve, or see/feel something they truly desire before they pass. I have known patients who were waiting for a son/daughter to visit from continents away who passed soon after the visit.
And I believe that the Higher Consciousness/God/Universe is involved in this too. My current friend recently saw a cardinal arrive in his back yard. I mentioned how this is often a sign/message from a loved one who is deceased and I have no doubt he was thinking about his current dying friend who was most on his mind although not yet deceased. I held back from sharing the idea of energy moving faster that what we can perceive with our senses as I did not want to worry him further. Yet I do believe it’s true. I also believe in miracles so I do not like to give too much thought/energy into a direction that could miraculously turn around (after all, this is how near death experiences happen). Yet this time, even though I do not know the friend who is passing, I sense that he is being prepared and readied for a beautiful adventure into that realm of existence where all is perfect, no worries exist, and joys unimaginable to our normal human minds will delight him. How could anyone not welcome this true celebration of the life experience for those they love. This does require some trust in the unknown and a faith that all religions/spiritual traditions often remind us about. My instinct and experience fills my trust and faith in this daily and I hope that the energy I share in my desire to help those in such un-easy times of transition will lift them with the same certain energy that I feel in my heart.
If you are working through a recent (or past) loss due to death or the dying experience please know that there are wonders beyond our senses that far surpass the human experience on many levels. The pain of your loss in this time and beyond does benefit from healthy grieving processing too – of course I recommend Grief Recovery for anyone in this space. Take the time you need for your own healing and know that I am here to help if you ever need me.
Wishing you your own healing and transformation through this opportunity in your life. There is a blessing in this experience for you. Trust. Grieve. Heal.